Kayastha Wedding Rituals And Every Rituals Involved In It

Who wouldn’t agree when we would say that India is a land that embraces diversity? Correct us if we are wrong! There is no denying that in India one witnesses several traditions and cultures. And when it comes to any Indian wedding, it is a like a lavish and extravaganza affair. Talking about Kayastha matrimony specifically in here, it simply ceases to leave its on-lookers in awe and admiration.

Kayastha community is the community that is situated in the states of U.P, Madhya Pradesh and Delhi. The marriage rituals of this community are a little bit different from other communities. But one thing is for sure and that is the fun and excitement that is involved in this wedding. The family of the Kayastha bride & groom fix the marriage and after the finalizing of the bride/groom, the family members fix the most auspicious marriage date as per their respective birth charts.

#1. Lagan Ceremony

Kayastha the wedding ceremony starts with the lagan ritual in which the family of both the bride and the groom sends a formal invitation in the form of a lagan Patrika. The lagan Patrika is sent along with a silver-covered coconut, betel nuts, and gold-covered barley. Apart from this, the bride’s family offers clothes for the groom and his family along with sweets, dry fruits, and fresh fruits.

#2. Bariksha

Bariksha is a wedding ceremony is Kayastha matrimony that marks the acceptance of the groom and the bride who will become each other’s life partners. Moreover, in this particular ritual, the Kayastha girl’s the family sends a silver bowl full of rice, supari and turmeric powder as well as an envelope that contains cash, representing the confirmation of the relation between the two families.

#3. The Farisht

The Farisht is a super interesting ritual in a Kayastha Matrimony. The Farisht ritual calls for the Groom to take a major part. In this, he is supposed to send a list of all the relatives/guests that they will be inviting to the wedding along with the Gods and Goddesses they worship. And the list has to be POETIC and not an old style. Interesting, no?

#4. Sagai

Just like any other Indian wedding, Sagai a formal engagement ceremony in which the bride and the groom exchange rings and formalize their relationship in front of the world. The groom’s family visits the house of the bride with gifts, jewelry, and dresses for the bride. Also, the mother of the groom applies red teeka on her forehead and places all the gift items on her lap.

#5. Bhat Nyota

The appearance of Bhat Nyota is seen in a number of Indian marriages and a Kayastha wedding is no exception! Bhat Nyota ritual is performed in the Groom’s and the Bride’s families a few days before the actual wedding day. Mothers from both parties visit their respective parents’ house. This is to invite them to their maternal grandchild’s wedding and comprises a lot of warm as well as fun wedding memories.

#6. Haldi Kutaai

Haldi Kutaai is just like the Haldi ceremony that takes place in most of the Indian weddings. In a Kayastha wedding, it is called the Haldi Kutaai ceremony. There is only a slight difference in Kayastha's wedding, as it is carried out at the Kayastha groom’s place. Each and every lady in the groom’s family dress up with their Nath, teekas and chunri in order to prepare the Haldi (turmeric) powder for the bride. And once it is prepared, the Haldi paste is sent to the bride’s house through her brother.

#7. Mandapchadan

Mandapchadan is about the involvement of the male members of the groom’s side. In this, five elder married male members use four bamboo posts, banana stumps, and mango leaves to make the pillars of the mandap. On the other hand, the roof of the mandap is made up of hay. This is where the wedding ceremonies take place on the d-day!

#8. Tilak

Tilak the ceremony of the Kayastha matrimonial takes place at the residence of the groom in the presence of all the friends and the family members. Gifts are given to the groom, which are placed on his lap during the ritual along with the application of the tilak.

#9. Imli Ghutna

Imli Ghutna is a ritual wherein the positivity and prosperity are brought and converged to the groom through the blessings. The ceremony is performed by the groom’s maternal uncle and aunt. This is done so that the marriage turns out to be a successful one without any obstacles or negativity. The maternal uncle and aunt of the Groom come together and bless the groom for a happy married life.

#10. Mehendi ceremony

Just like any other Indian wedding, a Mehendi ceremony takes place a day before the wedding day. It is basically an evening full of fun, dance and feast where the groom and the bride adorn their hands with henna. Even the female friends and family members apply Mehendi on their hands. Unlike many other Hindu weddings, in Kayastha matrimony, even the Kayastha groom applies the beautiful design of the Mehendi.

#11. Parichhavan

Parichhavan is performed right before the groom sets out with his baraat to bring his bride at his home. Before stepping out of the house, the mother of the groom performs aarti for the baraat and also blesses her son with god wishes so that they reach the Kayastha bride’s house or the wedding venue safe and sound. The mother of the groom basically wards off all bad omens and put tilak on his forehead with her blessing for the new auspicious beginning.

#12. Bhaat Ceremony

Bhaat is a lunch ceremony that is organized and executed with full warmth by the maternal uncle of the bride for the groom and his family members. In this ritual, lovely gifts and money are also given by the bride’s uncle to the Kayastha groom as well as the close members of his family.

#13. Baraat procession

Now, the procession of the baraat takes place with all the dhoom-dhaam and shor-sharaba. First of all, the baraat proceeds towards the nearby temple to take the blessings of their God. All the male members of the family and a few females of the family participate in this procession.

#14. Tani Khulai

Once the wedding rituals are completed and after the bride and the groom are now pronounced as husband and wife, the groom opens a sacred cloth. The cloth consists of a knot which he is supposed has to untie. And when this ritual is done, it is when the parents of the bride shower him with some gifts and cash for their prosperity as husband and wife.

Just like any other wedding, Kayastha matrimony is also filled with lots of colors, rites, and rituals. After the marriage, the newlyweded couple is welcomed by the groom’s family in his house, followed by a muh-dikhai ceremony where the newbie bride is welcomed by gifts and sweets by all her new family members. Have you ever witnessed a Kayastha wedding? If your answer is in affirmative, do share your views with us!

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